It’s been great to get away for a few days with my amazing wife and experience bountiful and beautiful British Columbia. I am proud to call this place home and am grateful to be able to explore it again.
We spent four memorable days ocean kayaking, wilderness camping and total disconnect from technology – pure off-line experience which provided room for real inner recharge.
The adventure ended with 4 days at our favorite beach cottage where we spent time reviewing our Life Plan. We have a 1, 3, 5, 10, 20 years vision which has evolved, changed and morphed over the years to reflect our own inner progression as a couple and as individuals.
We have incorporated the term “Life By Design” as an integral part of our life philosophy. This process requires deep self-reflection, clarity and alignment with who you really are, what are your true aspirations and dreams, what is your personal relationship with what is possible or not, and if I take it a step further – your relationship with your own inner self-limiting beliefs – do I deserve this, am I good enough, they can do this but not me and the list goes on and on. These obnoxious, but real inner voices try to take control of the conversation and dictate your final ability to pursue something outside your comfort zone or ‘buy in’ to what ‘they’ say and give in.
I am sure you all tried different methods for goal setting or ways to implement desirable behavior change that will support you with achieving the results you strive for. Did you find a way that worked for you? What was it and has the change you were after happened?
I am the first to admit that for me, this is a life pursuit that never ends, I always strive to improve and adjust my approach, plan, tools and techniques because circumstances change, life changes and the ability to adapt, adjust and course correct become as important, and I’ll argue – even more important, than the goals themselves.
Next week I’ll share how this appears daily, on my journey with building the Life Re-Builder Community and I invite you to share your experience.
Your ever well wisher
Week #3: Join me on my journey to create the Life Re-Builder Community for helping people that have experienced devastation to re-build and transform their life with purpose and meaning.
Week 3 marks deeper insight into what and why Clarity is vital
What a week! As we continue to develop the Life Re-Builder Community the more I understand how essential it is to share the process with you. I must admit – I find it essential for me (and I hope valuable to you) as I learn so much by doing the work and by sharing the journey. It pushes me to find my own voice and how I show up for you and for myself.
One of the mantras I live by is: “life is the journey, not the destination” and as cliché as it may sound, it’s a constant reminder on how we show up DAILY in our lives.
As I mentioned in my previous post my personal journey creating the Life Re-Builder Community is a beautiful daily (at times hourly) reminder of what really matters. Each step along the way can be mindfully experienced or put on autopilot and blend with everything else.
So much of what has helped me along the way, has to do with understanding the distinct relationship between perception and observation. Yes, I know this may sound ‘deep’ but allow me to simplify it:
From the moment we wake up in the morning until we fall asleep, every waking minute requires us to navigate endless situations that demand endless decisions to be made.
Each decision holds immense power as to how it will serve us. From the simple decision of what we choose to fuel our body with to more complex ones related to actions that affect us mentally and emotionally which hold the key to what’s possible and doable in our lives.
Each decision can be made from a clear, present and self-aware place, or not. It’s really that simple…
Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying it’s easy, all I am saying is that there are only two places from which we make a decision.
One results in vagueness, uncertainty and at times inability to make a decision at all, while the other resonates so deeply that no matter what the end result is – you know that whatever happens is just as it should and you are in peace with it.
And the beauty of this is that you have the power of choice!
Please share your experience with a recent decision that reflect the power of choice and in my next post we’ll dive deeper and explore the enormous power of choice and how you can harness it to elevate your daily decisions which ultimately affect your entire life.
Your ever well wisher
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Week #2: Join me on my journey to create the Life Re-Builder Community for helping people that experienced devastation re-build and transform their life with purpose and meaning.
When you decide to do the work, it’s guaranteed that old patterns will show up to stop you...
Week 2 is almost over and it’s a balanced dance between patience and strategy…
After many years incubating the idea of the Life Re-Builder Community the time has come to bring it to the world. I can no longer sit on the fence and keep this information to myself.
My journey to re-build my own life is no different to the same journey people embarked on thousands of years ago and continue to do so daily. Many books, studies, research and stories have been written about it and the Life Re-Builder Community is here to share them as a source of inspiration, empowerment and guidance.
My experience of re-building my life multiple times (some will say too many…) has allowed me to distill the essence of what it takes to bounce back and re-build. There’s logic to the madness and you’ll learn all about it as we go. But the real strength of our community to really grow and provide the necessary information will happen when you participate and share your valuable journey, insights and ideas.
So, I am happy to announce the creation of the Life Re-Builder Community Facebook Group and invite you to join us. This is where real magic happens – you’ll have access to special content created by myself and others, videos, stories, tools, techniques, daily winning rituals to anchor and ground you and of course – yours and others Life Re-Builder stories.
My personal experience with making major decisions, committing to them and following through has always been a humbling experience. I trust you can relate…
On Monday, I will start working out…
On Tuesday, I will start eating healthier…
On Wednesday, I will begin that project which I planned on doing for over a year…
And the list goes on and on
As humans, we are programed to do whatever it takes to remain comfortable, we’ll do almost anything to avoid pain and will create a wonderful story to convince ourselves (and others) that the change we wish to do would be great.
But… life has a funny way to show up right at the moment when we’re about to wear our running shoes and go to the gym, or the planned diet change that was about to start on Monday must be rescheduled for next week because we’re invited to go out on Wednesday with our friends to this great new restaurant that just opened…
or we just can’t find time to begin that project we committed to start on the weekend…
As each ‘goal’ fades away and life takes over we reinforce that annoying voice in our head “here you go again… all these great goals and nothing really happens, it’s useless to even try”
How difficult is it to really change old habits and install new ones that actually stick?
The real answer: it’s extremely difficult!!!
Most of us put our self needs last, it’s the children, our spouse, work, social commitments and other ‘life necessities’ that take precedence over our own self-care.
This is the number one reason why we so often can’t find time to take care of ourselves and repeatedly run into the frustrating cycle of committing to do something and not following through.
For change to take place we need to find a resonating ‘hell yes’ reason that will initiate a sequence of behavior changes which create a state where not doing what we committed to do is more painful than doing it.
So in this week post I’d like to introduce you to what I call Radical Self-Care.
This is where you allow yourself to be first priority and permission is given and accepted to actually be OK with taking care of yourself.
Reality is, that if you don’t have time to take care of yourself, sooner or later you’ll burn out and the consequences are enormous.
Please join our Facebook group and share your personal story on what happens when you neglect taking care of yourself.
Your ever well wisher
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